While there are some things we reveal slowly over the course of a relationship, there are some things you need to be honest and upfront about. It’s not okay to cheat on someone you have a romantic interest in, even if you want to make a good first impression. Read on to see all the things you should be 100% honest about with other people.
1. Who is the authentic “you”.
As tempting as it is to want to be someone else for a while, you’re stuck being yourself for a long time in this life, and it’s not an area where you have to fake it until you make it. It’s not great to find out you’ve been let down or deceived by others, and the minimum we deserve as human beings is to truly know someone we’ve let into our lives.
Hidden motives and ulterior motives can make people feel lied to, used, or taken advantage of. Misleading others is a form of lying, as is deception. Being honest about your intentions is important, especially when other people are involved or affected.
3. Values that are important to you
We all know that we shouldn’t talk about politics or other controversial things in some relationships, but knowing each other’s values is vital. Values are things that are important to us, and whether they are communicated to a friend or a romantic partner, it lets other people know to respect those values in the future. Don’t keep your valuables a secret!
4. Your feelings
It’s not easy to express emotions or tell others how you feel all the time. Still, it’s a good habit (sometimes, it is) as it prevents feelings from bottling up and exploding at a later date. Emotions are valid and require release. Often this means talking to the other person. This can really take the weight off your shoulders.
5. Your happiness
Sometimes we keep our lips shut when we’re unhappy because we’re worried about being perceived as high-maintenance or difficult. No one can guess what you’re unhappy about, so be sure to speak up if you feel disrespected or your happiness is being affected by someone else in an avoidable way.
6. Requesting assistance
There’s no shame in needing help, but the first step is asking for it. Whether it’s something big or just a small problem, remember that there’s no need to be afraid or embarrassed. Who knows? The person you least expect can end up giving you the awful help you need.
7. Insecurities you have
No matter how confident we are, we all have our insecurities. But the whole point of friendships and romantic relationships is to provide support to the other person. When there isn’t enough self-love in the world, someone close to you can remind you how amazing you really are. Just hearing those words can make you feel better and help you reduce those insecurities over time until you finally believe what they have in store for you.